Read some excerpts of the fascinating interview.
Growing up, what was it like for you?
My growing up was rough but I had a wonderful mother. I was 11 when my father passed on. Then my mother was a young woman. She was a single mother of seven kids.
I was just 11 going on 12 so my mother had to take care of all of us.
At 12, I became a man because I had to help my mum to fend for my siblings and myself. Though I was in school, I worked like an adult so that I could have education. I went from place to place looking for opportunity to earn a living.
I became a farmer and did manual labour because there was no support from anywhere.
Was there a time you were at the crossroads and contemplated suicide?
Yeah…I wanted to run in front of a car at a point. I was homeless; I had nowhere to sleep. There was no food and I couldn’t steal so I just got tired of everything so I closed my eyes and tried to jump in front of a car and the guy who was at the wheels spat on me and said, ‘oloshi!’
What were you doing during that particular time?
I was looking for a job. I dropped out of secondary school because things were not happening so I said ‘let this thing just go!’At the time I was stuck.
I left my village after I finished secondary school and came to earn a living but things just weren’t working out. That was when I took the decision to end it all.
Eventually, things picked up a bit for my mum and I went back home and finished secondary school and then I started the second phase of my suffering. But at that time, I had a focus; I knew that I was going to be okay.
Did you help your mum in hawking or anything?
Oh yeah I did a lot of it. I know you probably read this from the paper or the net. I hawked agidi and kerosene.
You talked about your late mother, what do you miss about her?
My mum and I were very close. We talked a lot. Among all her kids I was the closest to her; I was the one who always came and sat down with her and we talked. I miss that.
What was the best advice she gave to you?
She told me I was going to have a lot of women in my life like my father but she advised me never in my life should I come close to another man’s wife; I will not forget that advice. With the roles you act in movies, women definitely flock around you… Yeah! (Laughs), that’s a definite yes. Women come around and I lose it sometimes. But I will advice the younger ones that because you’re having the attention today does not mean you will have it tomorrow.
That’s why I don’t like shunning and judging people. Even my fans know that I am so down to earth.
When did you get your first break?
Turning point for my career was 1981 when I attended an audition to become part of Black Heritage, an African theater group at Sango Otta in Lagos.
I eventually became the leader of that group after I became the director.
And then we started touring the world. We toured Europe and America and then it dawned on me I could never turn my back on the arts.
So what were the challenges you faced?
In the acting world, the main challenge has always been with the money. We didn’t have anything until now. Now you go to a location and you see expensive cars belonging to actors. Those days you finished your show and you don’t have money to get home. However, we enjoyed it because we were driven by passion. We just wanted to become actors and be on TV.
So that was what kept us going despite the challenges: it was quite rough but we enjoyed ourselves thoroughly.
Definitely we had the best acting then. But anything that cannot put food on your table is not exactly cool.
Life is better now but actors don’t get training any more.
Even when we started TV series in Nigeria, we were still rehearsing.
Did your early exposure outside the country contribute to your career?
Definitely it sure did. I cannot deny that fact. I have been to various countries around the world. I was in Berlin, France, England and America for shows in the 80s and all these work experiences definitely impacted on my career.
I was exposed to a lot of people. I have played jazz with bands from various parts of the world especially in North and South America.
Why did you abandon music for acting?
Well my shift from music was due to health reasons. I shifted before I came back home. I had one or two clubs that I was playing back then in London. At a point I was playing jazz on the streets of Ethiopia.
Sometimes we played the whole weekend and then I would be sick throughout the week because of too much second hand cigarette smoke so I moved away from music.
How do you handle the pressure from women?
I won’t call it pressure. I will call it temptation. There are plenty of temptations.
Pressure comes every now and then but mostly, its temptation. No advice can help you with temptation; it’s just prayers. I am not really a prayerful person but I take my spirituality serious.
How do you handle these temptations?
It’s not an easy task but the question is, how many can you take? You cook a pot of soup, taste it and it taste good.
But do you keep it?
I have seen women; beautiful women. I have been around and yet I am still single. I have been with them in the south, north, east and west.
I have been with them from France to Brazil; I have seen beautiful Western women that could blow your mind away so you’ve got to tame your passions, sit down and just take things easy. My being here today is the blessing of God because I was lost but now I have been found. Now I’m a little more matured than I was when I was younger.
Today, how many wives can we say you have been married to?
Not wives. I have been married once. Legally, I have never married.
Is she in Nigeria?
No, she is in America.
What happened?
We grew apart though we’re still friends. Our lives just changed and we began to see that we had differences we could not reconcile; we don’t match any more.
It was a mutual thing. Like I said, there was no quarrel, no fighting and no dirty things.
Would you reconcile with your ex-wife if you had the opportunity?
I don’t think so and that’s because you reconcile where there are quarrels. We realized that we couldn’t be together anymore so we moved on.
We are still very good friends though so there is no need for reconciliation.
We are not even divorced but separated and we didn’t go to court for anything.
We didn’t even quarrel. Forget about what papers said.
It’s because we’re both actors. Today, we are friends.
You’re famous for acting sugar daddy roles…?
I play roles that are given to me. But there is something that I have found out and it’s that a lot of producers and writers have written stories around my life.
A lot of them know that I can suit into such roles and so they sought for me.
But I can act other roles like the one that I am doing now where I’m playing a blind man who believes that everything starts and ends with Jesus Christ.
I know I am unique. And most men my age cannot act the roles I act.
Not because they are not good but because of what I have which they don’t have.
And I think it has to do with my experience because I am able to go into the archive of my experience and tap into it. God has been so wonderful.
Why do you like dressing in white dress?
It’s because I’m always conscious with my spirituality and am comfortable with whenever I wear white.
Hmmmmm...... Inspiring
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